Hey loves! This post is a game-changer for both our younger and more mature girls. We’re diving deep into the real deal – genuine love from a real man’s perspective. So, imagine this: many of us are clueless about what real love from a guy looks like. Blame it on absent dads or maybe just life’s wild ride. But let’s get real – it’s time to decode the mystery of authentic love.
My Biblical inspiration 😇
Recently, I’ve been thinking about how a wrong response to a good man’s love can totally mess things up. Let me be old-fashioned again and refer to the Judeo-Christian Bible. Inspired by the wisdom of Biblical Proverbs 14:1, I started exploring how a wise woman builds her castle while the foolish one goes wrecking ball mode. It got me thinking – what if our guys learned love from a messed-up manual?
Now, let’s talk perfect biblical King and perfect life Song of Solomon vibes – that ancient love manual. I broke down the basics: a real man pursues you, affirms you, and sacrifices for you. THAT is all about equality, respect, and growing together.
Is he an MVP? 🥇
Ladies, here’s the real talk – when a guy really loves you, he’s not just about the bedroom business. Emotional intimacy, trust, and spending quality time outside the sheets are the real MVPs (for our non-athletic ladies: most valuable player).
And guess what? It’s not just about him changing for you. You gotta grow too! A real love story involves both partners leveling up together.
In a nutshell, it’s time to recognize and cherish the real deal in love. I spilled my Lady Magnate secrets on what makes a man’s love authentic. Dive into this love journey with me, and let’s unlock the magic together! 💖✨ Read the article below 👇
Decoding the Essence of Genuine Love: A Blueprint for Understanding a Real Man’s Love
Tonight’s discussion delves into a profound exploration of love, one that extends its impact to both women and men alike. The message I’m about to unravel transcends gender boundaries, prompting an inquiry into the characteristics of genuine love from a real man. What does it truly look like when a woman is genuinely loved by a real man? How does this love manifest, and how can one discern its authenticity?
Positive role models
Many women find themselves grappling with the concept of a real man’s love, often lacking a tangible reference point. Simultaneously, there are men who may not have experienced a healthy model of love in their formative years, especially from an actively loving father. Men often learn about relationships and love through the examples set by those around them, and the absence of positive role models can lead to the perpetuation of dysfunction.
Most women are lost
During my Tarot consultations with women, a common theme emerges—many struggle to recognize and appreciate authentic love because they were never shown what it looked like, particularly by their fathers or father figures. This lack of representation in their lives sets the stage for misconceptions and misguided expectations. Nobody has taken the responsibility to guide and clarify the love of a real man. Thus, let me speak into your hearts.
The correct response
The love of a man must be managed wisely, carefully, and intentionally by the woman he loves. The wrong response to a man’s love can inadvertently set the relationship back, as highlighted in Proverbs 14:1, which emphasizes the power of a wise woman in building her house versus a foolish one who tears it down with her hands.
The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands.
Proverbs 14:1
The power of love
A significant disconnect between men and women often arises from an insufficient understanding of the transformative power of love. This misinterpretation can lead to bitterness, anger, and vindictiveness, creating a cycle of dysfunction. Many men who have attempted to express love have faced rejection, resulting in a distortion of their perception of love.
The key lies in recognizing and appreciating authentic love, a task often complicated by the absence of positive male role models. Learning healthy relationship dynamics is crucial, as relationships formed in one’s youth may inadvertently shape one’s approach to love in later years. However, don’t lose hope if you didn’t have a father figure—there are many tools and resources available to support you. These include professional therapy, counseling with a religious or spiritual guide, life coaching sessions, hypnotherapy, meditations, journaling, shadow work, spell casting, aura cleansing, chakra balancing, and much more.
1 The Song of Songs, which is Solomon’s.
The Bride Confesses Her Love
She[a]
2 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth!
For your love is better than wine;
3 your anointing oils are fragrant;
your name is oil poured out;
therefore virgins love you.
4 Draw me after you; let us run.
The king has brought me into his chambers.Others
We will exult and rejoice in you;
we will extol your love more than wine;
rightly do they love you.She
5 I am very dark, but lovely,
O daughters of Jerusalem,
like the tents of Kedar,
like the curtains of Solomon.
6 Do not gaze at me because I am dark,
because the sun has looked upon me.
My mother’s sons were angry with me;
they made me keeper of the vineyards,
but my own vineyard I have not kept!
7 Tell me, you whom my soul loves,
where you pasture your flock,
where you make it lie down at noon;
for why should I be like one who veils herself
beside the flocks of your companions?Solomon and His Bride Delight in Each Other
He
8 If you do not know,
O most beautiful among women,
follow in the tracks of the flock,
and pasture your young goats
beside the shepherds’ tents.9 I compare you, my love,
to a mare among Pharaoh’s chariots.
10 Your cheeks are lovely with ornaments,
your neck with strings of jewels.Others
11 We will make for you[b] ornaments of gold,
studded with silver.She
12 While the king was on his couch,
my nard gave forth its fragrance.
13 My beloved is to me a sachet of myrrh
that lies between my breasts.
14 My beloved is to me a cluster of henna blossoms
in the vineyards of Engedi.He
15 Behold, you are beautiful, my love;
behold, you are beautiful;
your eyes are doves.She
16 Behold, you are beautiful, my beloved, truly delightful.
The Song of Solomon
Our couch is green;
17 the beams of our house are cedar;
our rafters are pine.
What is a REAL LOVE?
Authentic love, as exemplified in The Song of Solomon, involves pursuit and devotion. When a man genuinely loves a woman, he actively pursues her, expressing his desire for her companionship. This pursuit is not about stalking or overbearing actions but making his intentions and presence known.
Moreover, a real man’s love involves affirmation and appreciation. While not all men may be expressive verbally, their love is evident in gestures, affirmations, and expressions of appreciation. A woman’s responsiveness to these affirmations is crucial, as it influences whether a man continues to share his love openly or muzzles it due to perceived indifference.
The core of a Real Man’s love
Sacrifice and selflessness are at the core of a grown man’s love. True love involves putting the needs of the woman above one’s own, with a commitment to making life easier for her. This sacrificial love is a reflection of Christ’s love for the Church (the People), emphasizing the importance of a man loving his wife as Christ loved the Church (=the people).
Love is false without these
Emotional intimacy, trust, and strong companionship characterize a genuine love between a man and a woman. Spending quality time outside of physical intimacy is crucial, fostering a connection that goes beyond mere physical attraction. A man’s willingness to grow with his partner, taking an interest in her pursuits and expanding his own repertoire, is a testament to the depth of his love.
Subtle differences
Lastly, a real man’s love is protective without being possessive. There is a fine line between healthy protectiveness and controlling behavior, and it’s essential to understand the distinction. A man’s protective instincts stem from genuine concern and care for the well-being of the woman he loves.
In conclusion, decoding the essence of genuine love requires a nuanced understanding of its various facets. By recognizing the pursuit, affirmation, sacrifice, emotional intimacy, and protectiveness inherent in a real man’s love, individuals can navigate the complexities of relationships with wisdom and intentionality.
Important concepts to think about and discuss (even below):
- Importance of Fatherly Influence: Huge influence of one’s father’s love in shaping one’s understanding of authentic love, addressing the impact of absent or dysfunctional father figures.
- Misconceptions and Dysfunction: Misconceptions about love, often learned in early relationships, can lead to dysfunctional patterns and hinder the recognition of genuine love.
- Attributes of a Man’s Real Love: Pursuit, affirmation, sacrificial nature, emotional intimacy, and the ability to grow together as partners.
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